Abortion, Sex Ed, Birth Control etc

Abortion seems to be a subject of conversation lately, and honestly if people where more responsible then it wouldn't be an issue. However it's obvious that people are not responsible enough to use a condom or birth control. 

In any case, I agree with the whole "it's her body, her choice".  So i guess that means I'm pro-choice. 

I think abortion is necessary. I think it gives us all something to argue about, something to help us decide on who to elect, on who we agree with or disagree with. I think the people who are so pro-life need to go the inner city, and highly populated cities and visit foster homes and group homes. Go look at all of the children there.  Why not do something to help them? 

So many children who live majority of their lives in the system will develop verbal,mental and social problems. Many will be physically and verbally abused, and neglected, but I don't see people with their signs demanding things for them! I don't see people throwing their bibles at the system or the abusive foster homes!

I know it's a touchy subject, because everyone and their mother knows someone who has had an abortion or who decided against having one or whatever. I get it, everyone knows someone who has dealt closely with abortion. 

I don't care who this offends, or who decides to glow a gasket because of what I'm about to write.

I think we need to stop focusing so much attention on abortion and whether its right or wrong. Whether is ethically, religiously or morally wrong. We need to focus more on Sex Education. 

Kids now a days are getting sex ed in elementary school. Think about that, elementary school. in elementary school my main focus was on beating Lauren and Taylor at Tetherball, doing a certain amount of flips on the monkey bars, passing my multiplication test so i could get a cherry on my ice cream sunday at the ice cream party(each number time table u passed on a timed test you got a piece of the ice cream sunday on the wall, at the end of a certain time period whatever was on your sunday was what u got at the ice cream party), not on sex. I thought boys were gross and mean. They were just kids i wanted to beat at football, and other sports. I used to kick them and beat them up for being so mean to girls. I had a crush once in elementary school, and to me a crush was just thinking he was nice and that i wanted him to be my friend and sit with me at lunch, be my partner on partner projects in class, play basketball with me, not to have sex with him or make babies.

Sex education should be more about the negative affects of sex than "its how babies are made" and the whole "if you have sex your going to hell". Show them pictures of different STD's. Show them the oozing graphic pictures of what their "junk" will look like. Tell them how painful some of the diseases can be. Emphasize that some of the things you get from having sex, you cant just wash off. Penicillin shots are painful(I got one when i was sick with an sinus infection and a virus and the other antibiotics i took for a week didn't make me better). Show them, hell scare them if that's what it takes. I know when i have kids I'm going to scare the crap out of them. I won't lie to them but i will scare them. "If you have sex you can get this STD and this STD and your junk will turn colors and hurt and look nasty". 

We need to focus on making birth control more available to girls. Obviously condoms aren't working. making them more available, i believe, wont do anything. condoms have been available in bathrooms, doctors offices and free clinics for so many years now and yet we are still having this problem. Sell birth control over the counter but require them to talk to the pharmacist so they know how to use it properly. Inform them that if they are taking it, and start taking antibiotics that they can get pregnant(oh don't believe that? well my mom took birth control and antibiotics...and now I'm here writing this, so its true). 

There also needs to be some blame on the parents. It's shouldn't be the schools responsibility to teach every child about sex, and what sex is, that's the parents job. School is a place for education, not sex ed. they are teachers not doctors. Kids are supposed to learn about their bodies and ask their parents questions, or their doctors, not their teachers. Most teachers when i was growing up, if they were asked a question like that they were told kindly that they should ask their parents. If they couldn't ask their parents they asked the school nurse or the health teacher. My health teacher in High School(required semester of health class) had a question box. it was passed around at the beginning of class and during class or at the end she would answer question, all asked anonymously. Some questions were about family problems, some asked for advice and a lot were sex questions or body questions. I still,to this day,feel its the parents responsibility to answer these questions for their kids.  Come on parents take a little responsibility(like you always tell us kids) and be the adult, talk to your kids!!

Not My Dirty Laundry

I can't be quiet about it anymore. If you are planning on getting married to someone, don't you think you guys should be together longer than a year before getting married? I understand older people who have been married before, who have been around the block and have some common sense and knowledge under their belt getting married within or after a year. I know a couple that did this. I though it was stupid when they decided it but i was supportive because it wasn't my place to bitch or throw a fit, but....I'm airing out the dirty laundry. I wont use names but I'm done keeping it all inside and pretending to be OK with it.

What is marriage anyway? A piece of paper? A ring u wear on a specific finger?

I'm not anti-marriage. I want to get married one day, but I don't want to rush into it.

According to the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology, 50% of first marriages, 67% of second marriages and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. Now remind me again why everyone is in such a rush to get married??

Marriage is not something to be played with.

Wilt thou have this Man to thy wedded husband, to live together after God's ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou love him, comfort him, honour, and keep him in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, keep thee only unto him, so long as ye both shall live?

When you say "I do" After being asked whats above its a vow. Its not just words u agree to. Once these are said and you get your marriage license that doesn't mean you can get pissed off at your spouse and just up and decide to leave. You don't grab your stuff and disappear for a week and come back saying your sorry. You don't leave and say you want a divorce 3, 4, or 5 times within a year and then cry that he didn't fight for you, or make a scene for you. You are the ignorant one who decided to leave. You suck it up and work it out, you suck it up and deal with it. "running is the only thing i know" is not an excuse, it's a cop-out.

The fact that you left the first time, or even the second time shows that you are not serious about the commitment or the relationship.You hurt not only your spouse but everyone involved, their family, your family etc.Then after giving the final "I'm done i want a divorce" come crawling back and forth between your husband and an ex. By doing that you give your spouse the right to divorce you because you were unfaithful.

Weeks go by and things start to go bad with your ex, what do you do? You crawl back into your spouses life causing a tragic and heart wrenching incident that puts your spouses entire family on edge. Not just the family in the state but those out of state as well. "I didn't cause it" BULLSHIT!! You were talking to him about what happened. All of the bad. Putting all of the blame on him instead of on yourself. Its not shock that his family didn't want you informed, or there by his side.

Why would you be by his side? "Because he is my husband". Now he is, after he ends up in danger and fighting for his life. Why wasn't he your husband when you were banging your ex? Why wasn't he your husband when the thought of leaving came to mind? Why wasn't he your husband when you lied to everyone about living with your family when you left? He wasn't. You were using him, playing with his emotions. He cared more than you will ever know and more than he will ever show and you threw that away.

I know she will be pissed that i wrote this, but like she said to me "I was honest". I'm being honest now when I say the only reason I am nice to you, still talk to you or even kept you informed was because of a promise i made, and because of my dad. I promised if you two split up we would still be friends and against my better judgement i stayed your friend. Even when the only reason you talked to me was to ask questions about him. The only reason i kept you informed was because my dad told me to.

I find out they are getting back together. "This time till death". Isn't that the same promise you made when you got married? We will see how long it lasts this time.

Anyone reading please think about your choices. Getting married is not just something between you and the other person. It affects everyone around you, kids, friends, and family.