saddened at the thought

im saddened to think that the moment i shows signs of happiness there is always someone who pops in with some comment or lecture about why im wrong for being happy.

at this point in my life i consider myself an adult, ill be able to purchase alcohol in about a week and have been able to vote for a few years now,i work and go to school. yes i still live at home,but i am orking on moving out hopefully this year.

I dont like being talked to like im still in High School,its a literal insult. I dont like being talked to like im ignorant,innocent or just oblivious to everything around me,

If i am happy, all of the lectures and such are all things that just piss me off. I mean everyone has made choices to be happy that were not approved by everyone else. this isnt an office or chain of command that dictates whether or not i can be happy. I make choices as i see fit, for one simple reason: ITS MY LIFE.

i dont see why everyone including parents ever think that voicing disapproval and yelling lecturing etc will actually change anything. I made a choice and it wasnt even a drastic one, but its like heads roll because im happy and made a choice.

maybe one day they will get it that it doesnt make a difference. everyone makes choices that their parents or friends dont agree with but hat do they do? shut their mouths and deal with it because its not their life its someone else's life. when will people see that applies to me as well?

Naming Your Child

In Iceland they have a Personal Names Register. Its a list of names approved by the government. When new parents go to name their child they have to choose a name off of this list. A list of  1,712 male names and 1,853 female names that fit Icelandic grammar and pronunciation rules and that officials maintain will protect children from embarrassment. If the don't choose one off of this list then they have to get approval. 

There is a girl who is fighting to use the name her mother game her. The government said no on the approval because it takes a masculine article.  Her mother didn't know it wasn't on the list until the priest who baptized her baby that he had mistakenly allowed it.

 I think its a great idea though. It has its cons but I am all for it. 

I sound outrageous right? WRONG! How many times have you asked someone about their baby "Oh they're so cute/adorable, whats his/her name?" And they tell you some ridiculous name that make you want to fall to the ground with laughter? Or you heard their name and you think to yourself "How the hell do you spell that?".

I have gone to school with some people whose names make me question how much their parents actually loved them.

 Naomi for example, we all know because of the movie Van Wilder is "I Moan" backwards. Now really, after hearing that, and knowing how many people have seen that movie, why would you name your child Naomi?

Think of all of the people who have named their kids after cars, cities, seasons,months or names that require extra thought because their parents cant spell? 

For Example:
Bentley
Aston
Camry
Mercedes
Lexus
May
April
Summer
Autumn
Paris
Dallas
Orlando
Charlotte
Jordan
Juno
Sydney
Austin
Rebekah
Julliette
Hilary (supposed to be Hillary)


Then think of the names that are easy to make fun of. Do you really want your kid teased their whole life? There was a girl i graduated with who couldn't have her whole name said at graduation because everyone(including me) made fun of it. I found out that their was actually a big upset with her parents complaining to the school about it when she started High School Because the teasing was so bad. SERIOUSLY?? Maybe you should have thought twice about what you named your kid! Or your child should have learned to stand up for herself!

Don't get your panties in a twist, I'm not bashing you for the name you chose for your child, or your parents for naming you what they did, I'm merely bringing up a subject no one talks about or brings up.  I Think the idea of having an approved list of names is a great idea. I think it would eliminate the amount of stupidity new parents show when they name their child a traditional name and have it spelled in a manner that not even their Foreign Language teacher let alone their English teachers can pronounce it. It prevents parents from naming their kids after things they don't have, or the place, month, or season they were conceived. It also prevents kids from being teased about their name. 

Im not saying it will stop bullying, because lets face it, even if your child has a "normal" name or even a biblical name, if the bully at school can bully your kid, then its gonna happen. But why give them anymore reason to?


(Btw the Icelandic girl did get to keep her name, and legally go by her name, rather than being called "Girl"..the story is here:Blaer From Iceland

Gun Control, Public Hearing

Everyone involved in the gun control debate, or who has an opinion, or even those who chose to stay out of the debates needs to watch this video.




Newtown Connecticut resident Bill Stevens testifies about his own priorities when it comes to the defense of his family. 

Abortion, Sex Ed, Birth Control etc

Abortion seems to be a subject of conversation lately, and honestly if people where more responsible then it wouldn't be an issue. However it's obvious that people are not responsible enough to use a condom or birth control. 

In any case, I agree with the whole "it's her body, her choice".  So i guess that means I'm pro-choice. 

I think abortion is necessary. I think it gives us all something to argue about, something to help us decide on who to elect, on who we agree with or disagree with. I think the people who are so pro-life need to go the inner city, and highly populated cities and visit foster homes and group homes. Go look at all of the children there.  Why not do something to help them? 

So many children who live majority of their lives in the system will develop verbal,mental and social problems. Many will be physically and verbally abused, and neglected, but I don't see people with their signs demanding things for them! I don't see people throwing their bibles at the system or the abusive foster homes!

I know it's a touchy subject, because everyone and their mother knows someone who has had an abortion or who decided against having one or whatever. I get it, everyone knows someone who has dealt closely with abortion. 

I don't care who this offends, or who decides to glow a gasket because of what I'm about to write.

I think we need to stop focusing so much attention on abortion and whether its right or wrong. Whether is ethically, religiously or morally wrong. We need to focus more on Sex Education. 

Kids now a days are getting sex ed in elementary school. Think about that, elementary school. in elementary school my main focus was on beating Lauren and Taylor at Tetherball, doing a certain amount of flips on the monkey bars, passing my multiplication test so i could get a cherry on my ice cream sunday at the ice cream party(each number time table u passed on a timed test you got a piece of the ice cream sunday on the wall, at the end of a certain time period whatever was on your sunday was what u got at the ice cream party), not on sex. I thought boys were gross and mean. They were just kids i wanted to beat at football, and other sports. I used to kick them and beat them up for being so mean to girls. I had a crush once in elementary school, and to me a crush was just thinking he was nice and that i wanted him to be my friend and sit with me at lunch, be my partner on partner projects in class, play basketball with me, not to have sex with him or make babies.

Sex education should be more about the negative affects of sex than "its how babies are made" and the whole "if you have sex your going to hell". Show them pictures of different STD's. Show them the oozing graphic pictures of what their "junk" will look like. Tell them how painful some of the diseases can be. Emphasize that some of the things you get from having sex, you cant just wash off. Penicillin shots are painful(I got one when i was sick with an sinus infection and a virus and the other antibiotics i took for a week didn't make me better). Show them, hell scare them if that's what it takes. I know when i have kids I'm going to scare the crap out of them. I won't lie to them but i will scare them. "If you have sex you can get this STD and this STD and your junk will turn colors and hurt and look nasty". 

We need to focus on making birth control more available to girls. Obviously condoms aren't working. making them more available, i believe, wont do anything. condoms have been available in bathrooms, doctors offices and free clinics for so many years now and yet we are still having this problem. Sell birth control over the counter but require them to talk to the pharmacist so they know how to use it properly. Inform them that if they are taking it, and start taking antibiotics that they can get pregnant(oh don't believe that? well my mom took birth control and antibiotics...and now I'm here writing this, so its true). 

There also needs to be some blame on the parents. It's shouldn't be the schools responsibility to teach every child about sex, and what sex is, that's the parents job. School is a place for education, not sex ed. they are teachers not doctors. Kids are supposed to learn about their bodies and ask their parents questions, or their doctors, not their teachers. Most teachers when i was growing up, if they were asked a question like that they were told kindly that they should ask their parents. If they couldn't ask their parents they asked the school nurse or the health teacher. My health teacher in High School(required semester of health class) had a question box. it was passed around at the beginning of class and during class or at the end she would answer question, all asked anonymously. Some questions were about family problems, some asked for advice and a lot were sex questions or body questions. I still,to this day,feel its the parents responsibility to answer these questions for their kids.  Come on parents take a little responsibility(like you always tell us kids) and be the adult, talk to your kids!!

100 yr Old Couple

In China on December 28th of 2012 Shi Sifan and his wife Liu Yaogu celebrated their 100th birthdays. They have been together for 78 years and were born on the same day. 

Of course in China there are many people who are close to or are 100 yrs old. China even passed a law saying that people are to visit and care for their older family members. Shi Sifan and Liu Yaogu live with their family, right down to the great great grandchildren.

There's no doubt that i will be visiting and caring for my parents when they are old and cant do it themselves and they will see their grandchildren on a regular basis.

I don't think there could ever be a law in the US that stated we had to go visit and care for our elders. It just wouldn't happen. It would be another law broken by many that would just crown the prison system.

I can see it now:
"And why, Mr.Smith have you not visited your parents? Why haven't you been taking care of them?"

Then there's the fact that they have been together for 78 years. 78 YEARS!! How many couples now a days can say they were together 78 years? Look around! all of the couples you see now, do you honestly think they will be together 78 years from now? Also how many people around you will live to be 100? Not many. 

I honestly believe that every couple i see when i look around, or look on Facebook, or anywhere else for that matter, will not be together in 78 years. I'm in a relationship and i can't say that we will be together in 78 years.(I sure as hell hope we are though)

I like seeing older couples who have been together for 30+ years. My generation thinks that being with someone for a few years is a huge accomplishment. I know baby mama's who have stayed with their man for more than a few years. It doesn't mean anything. 

You want to see an actual relationship? See what actual love looks like?

Look at this couple, look at the couples who have been together for 30, 40+ years and are still happy. You can see it by the way they look at each other. It's the look  as if they haven't aged one bit. They look at each other in amazement as if they were still young kids who just started dating.

I applaud this couple and their achievement. I also want to wish them both a Happy 100th Birthday. I hope they spend many more years together. :) 

Tattooed Child

Well, on Nancy Grace, an 11 yr old was given a home tattoo by her mother. The mother is facing 60 days in jail and a $1000 fine. The mothers defense? That her daughter said she wanted one and asked for it.

Its not a surprise to me that this is all over the news.

1. The mother is covered in tattoos

2. Everything is happening to people younger and younger (pregnancy,death, incarceration etc)

3. Everyone and their grandma has tattoos now.

She is 11 so what?! How many kids get gang tattoos at 10, 11 yrs old? How many kids are getting pregnant? Selling drugs? Selling their bodies at that age? A lot more than anyone will admit. 

This world is not how it was for the parents of my generation. There is no such thing as dating, having standards, birth control, self control or common sense anymore. 

Now parents focus for a minute. If your child wanted a tattoo, would you rather they go get it from some sleeze ball crack head down the street or in a nearby neighborhood, without the numbing and without knowing if their needle is clean? or (if you were capable) Give it to them yourself knowing the needle would be clean and that you could control how big or small the tattoo was? 

Im not sorry for feeling that way. I'd rather have my hypothetical child come to me that to anyone else. I'd rather smoke a joint with them than have them go to their friends or some other jerk-off who could lace the joint without their knowledge. 

The fact that the child in this story even went to her mother for a tattoo shows she trusts her. How many 11 yr olds have that much trust in their parents now a days? How many parents can honestly say their kids trust them that much?

I honestly could care less about how freaked out everyone is about this. An 11 yr old asked her mother for a tattoo. Her mother used the numbing crap(the pussy way out for any adult who gets one) and gave her daughter a small heart shaped tattoo. SO WHAT?!

Kids and Technology

Has anyone else felt like kids are becoming way too attached to electronics? Demanding new electronics? That they are driven by them, to get the "nect best thing"?

There are 7 yr old's with Ipods,Ipads, Iphones/Cell Phones, Laptops, Desktops, Digital cameras, etc etc.

Why the hell are we giving our kids so much access to these electronics and technology? Do they really need it?
I don't think so.

I have heard numerous reasons as to why parents let their kids use them, why they buy them for their 5,6,7 or 8 yr old.
 "it will help them advance faster in this world" or "it will make them smarter" or "they enjoy it"
"I want my child to have experience with technology" or "it will better their future" or "they have fun"

NO! Open your eyes, use your brain! Did you have that much access to electronics? Did your parents?

I didn't get a cell phone till i was almost 17. I never used computers until I was in school, and even then the computers we had where only there to tell us where to find books in the library. Our library was more books than anything.

We all see it, hear about it, and some of us bitch and whine, others see no problem with it. I feel bad for all of the generations below me. They will never learn the way we did. they will have a consistent need for electronics and the latest technology.

There are few cases where technology and electronics are acceptable for a small child. There are children with speech disabilities, or learning disabilities such as Dysgraphia, Autism, Dysarthia, or Orofacial Myofunctional Disorders. All affect a child, or adults, ability to communicate.

We have spoiled our children to a point of no return. They will one day be so dependent and driven on technology and electronics they wont be able to sign their own name. Is that really what we want for our children? Our grandchildren?

Our children do not need technology or electronics to be happy, or to have fun. Im 100% sure we survived, out parents survived. Send their little butts outside!! You remember that place right? OUTSIDE!! ts where kids learn social skills that include/require verbal skills and people skills, not typing on a keyboard, or use of an electronic.

They will develop people skills, verbal skills, and learn how to act in a social setting. It gives them a sense of independence because they can make their own friends and have face to face relationships. Not an Internet relationship, or technological skills

Kids & Parents

Now everyone i know has an opinion on the drastic drop in disciplinary actions taken by parents now a days. Some say its better the way it is now because its better for the child and their self esteem, their confidence etc etc. All just psychological bullshit that makes no fucking sense. Lets look at this topic for a minute. My generation didnt get the ass whoopins our parents got, or our grandparents got. Today they label it as "Abuse". I will admit, i didnt get a whole lot of ass whoopins throughout my childhood. Don't get me wrong, i can remember getting the belt taken to my behind, hearing stories from my grandmother who told me straight up that she gave me ass whoopins when i was little, but kids now, holy cow, are they headed downhill!

Next time you go to Wal-Mart or the grocery store, watch how the children in the store behave for their parents. without a doubt you will come across at least one of the "mommy please can i have this?" situations. Now a days the parental response is simple, just a verbal "no". More often than not the child will then proceed with a tantrum consisting of screaming, crying, or a mixture of both. Today parents will do what they can without getting physical with their child. Back then that screaming crying child would  have gotten spanked with the speech " what did i tell u in the car? i told you not to ask for anything or to touch anything" or "Just wait till we get home". I can recall on more than one occasion getting "just wait till we get home", and on occasion you would have come across that parent that would jokingly say they were gonna leave them there to cry.

Back in the day kids were disciplined with:
Belts
Fly Swatters
Shoes
Hot Wheels Race Car Tracks( you know the orange flexible ones)
Wooden Spoons
Paddles
Sandals
Spatulas (Metal and Plastic)
Iron
Back Scratcher
Nintendo Controller Wire
Christmas Tree Lights
Phone Books

Did the generations before mine really get abused? or were they, as Eddie Griffin said "My mama beat my ass out the penitentiary"??